Couples Therapy & EMDR (73)
Listen to this week’s episode of Notice That to hear the hosts discuss how to use EMDR within couples therapy.
EMDR & Couples Therapy
- Remember, safety remains the most important
- It can take longer for us to establish this with multiple people
- Especially considering that couples may lack trust with each other
- It’s important to take the specific situation into account.
- In other words, is the couple there for marriage counseling or has a client brought in their spouse?
- Clients sometimes don’t think about the physical vulnerability that they will feel
- So it can be helpful to discuss this ahead of time
- It can be beneficial to have the partner be part of the processing
- Additionally, the partner may benefit from seeing their partner in a place of vulnerability and sincerity
- Rather than seeing them through hurt and fear from their conflicts
- Sometimes it can be messy and painful, but it is real
- It can be very helpful for both partners to share their experiences and receive insight
- Traditionally, the goal of couple’s therapy is to keep the couple together
- But that shouldn’t be the goal unless the couple explicitly says that
- Therefore, it is not necessarily a failure of treatment if the couple does not remain together
“There is a very real possibility of discovering that the marriage is a strategy that has been birthed out of trauma, and healing will actually mean that they are ready to release that relationship” (21:10)
The 8 phase protocol & Couples Therapy
“Without the resourcing, we’re never going to get to the processing, and if we try it’s going to be messy” (24:29).
- The process is individualized and always changing
- Therefore, it doesn’t look one certain way.
- Remain open to the possibility that it may be necessary to see them individually
- With the understanding that it’s possible to bring them back together once safety is established.
- Finding a special memory that partners can share can provide connection.
- After history taking, try to create a sense of partnership and motivation
- Then, you can start to address the trauma
- It’s important to ask what happened between the couple
- However, it’s also important to ask what happened to the couple
Examples of EMDR & Couples Therapy
- Bridger discusses a client story (14:14)
- Jen discusses a client story (16:24)
- Bridger’s client example (30:25)
- Bridger talks about a client (37:01)
- Jen’s story from a couple’s retreat ( 43:45)
- It can be a very powerful experience
- The goal is to heal, regardless of the specific outcome for the couple
- Let go of assumptions and be open to all possibilities
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Executive Directors: Jennifer and Ryan Savage, Melissa Bentinnedi, Bridger Falkenstein
Hosts: Jennifer Savage, Melissa Benintendi, and Bridger Falkenstein
Filmographer: Tyler Wassam
Podcast Producer: Jamie Eggert
Original Music Composers: Bridger Falkenstein and Caleb Boston
Show Notes: Jordan Murray-Harper