Fly on the wall

On this week’s episode, Jen and Bridger discuss their subjective experiences as therapists.

Objective and Subjective Strategies

  • The therapeutic relationship is a real relationship 
  • Therefore, there are strategies that show up with clients 
  • For some people, caretaking is a big strategy
  • And hurting someone, even unintentionally, is hard to handle
  • Whether that is bringing up hard memories for a client
  • Or having to cancel a session 
  • A strategy of being more objective could help you reset in some ways  
  • But staying objective has its downsides as well 
  • Specifically, it can affect the therapeutic relationship 
  • Being subjective can provide greater depth and meaning to the relationship
  • Sometimes there is treatment resistance from clients
  • And all you can do is provide the invitation 
  • But there is a difference when you are willing to jump in with them 
  • When facing things objectively, it’s easy to blame the client if things aren’t working 
  • However, subjectively, you can understand their resistance 
  • And share the responsibility 

Vulnerability in the Relationship

  • It can be uncomfortable to talk about the relationship
  • And how you view one another 
  • But it’s easier to do when there is safety 
  • This is true for both therapist and client
  • Sometimes 100% subjectivity is not always the best move 
  • Just remember to use objectivity with awareness 
  • It is difficult to be fully engaged with the process if there isn’t enough safety 
  • And a client can stay in defense mode 
  • It feels very vulnerable to bring your subjective experience

Strategy Evolution

  • Jen has transitioned from objective to more subjective over the years
  • And her caretaking strategy has evolved 
  • At first, she didn’t recognize it as a strategy 
  • Eventually, she had the courage to acknowledge it with a client 
  • And she worked on de-shaming the strategy and being open
  • This can help her clients see her as human 

Subjective Fatigue

  • It’s a lot to make space for other’s feelings all day 
  • By the end of the day, it can be hard to show up with the same subjectivity and readiness
  • However, sharing this with clients could make them feel that the session isn’t important 
  • And that you aren’t engaged enough 
  • It can be especially difficult if you feel fatigued with a client that feels very connected with you 
  • Depending on the client and how the session is going,
  • it may or may not be beneficial to share these feelings with your client 

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Executive Directors: Jennifer and Ryan Savage, Melissa Bentinnedi, Bridger Falkenstein
Hosts: Jennifer Savage, Melissa Benintendi, and Bridger Falkenstein
Filmographer: Tyler Wassam
Podcast Producer: Jamie Eggert
Original Music Composers: Bridger Falkenstein and Caleb Boston
Show Notes: Jordan Murray-Harper