Listen in to hear Jen and Bridger discuss the fundamental components of resourcing so that we can create resources that are individualized for clients.
What happens during a session that makes us think we now need to be resourcing?:
- It comes from understanding their history.
- The way we are able to pinpoint and identify a potential resource is understanding their attachment and neurodevelopment.
- What did they have (or not have) in the past that was adaptive material that we want to grow and build upon.
What about when the therapeutic relationship is new?
- Before, Jen believed that everyone needed a Calm Safe Place, Container etc. Now there’s more focus on what is emerging in the relationship between therapist and client.
- Asking “How are they responding to me? What’s their level of activation coming to therapy?” When they talk about their family, notice their response and what we feel is happening.
- When something adaptive is experienced between us, or they report on something adaptive outside of session, those can be resources.
- SIP model – mapping illuminating the gaps that need resourcing
What does resourcing mean, neurobiologically?
- There is an unveiling of various experiences where the client ran out of resources.
- Their internal capacity for affect tolerance and integration was found to be unsubstantial.
- Calm safe place and container- we are introducing an internalized experience of affect regulation.
- This is showing their own body its capability to regulate between distress and ability to cope with the intolerable affect.
- Let’s stop this activation of affect in our system and teleport, or bring ourselves away from that by containing the affect for a different time.
- For situations that need containing in this moment may need more resources at a later time.
- State change
- Many clients want a person with them in the envision of a calm safe place because a lot of these are child parts that need the safety of a supportive figure.
- Figured-resources are qualities and abilities that create affective experiences in that person.
- Rescuer, for example, brings a level of strength and resilience that you need in that space.
- Figure-resourcing, we are bringing them into the state of affect so that we can stay in this state for resolution and release.
- The strength of a new internalized figure is going to help them feel more prepared for handling situations in the future.
- Trait change
“I’m always looking for what can make you feel more prepared.”
- Client’s symptoms are sometimes their best resources.
- Their symptoms are their adaptive strategies.
- Sometimes, encouraging the fragmentation of the system is okay.
- When someone is still in a very unsafe situation, those resources are still very much needed.
Example: borderline personality disorder
- The resourceful parts
- Codependency is what they use to feel safe.
- The symptom came as an attempt to regulate and get the need for safety met.
Creating new resources:
- Going through the five senses and embodying that experience and installing each one. This involves using calm safe place and having them label each of their senses.
- “Tell me about a time when _____________________.”
- “What positive part of yourself do you feel right now? What emotions are you feeling right now?”
- A disconfirming experience
- Resourcing is so much more vast than what we might have been originally taught and it is brought into every phase in EMDR.
- It’s not an isolated phase but part of each phase.
- It can be whatever the client needs in the moment and let your right brain take control!
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